You might be struggling with a codependent relationship. And if your first thought was, This is such bullshit, I don’t blame you. Codependency is one of the hardest dynamics to recognize when you’re in the middle of it. It can feel like deep love, unwavering loyalty, or even just “the way relationships are supposed to be.” But here’s the truth—when your sense of self becomes entangled with your partner’s emotions, needs, and validation, it stops being love and starts being dependency.

Want to test this? Try asking your partner to take the quiz alone and report back with their score. I’d be willing to bet they’ll either refuse or you are terrified to even ask them to take the quiz without you. Why? Because that’s the nature of codependency—there’s an unspoken fear of doing things separately, of seeing the relationship from the outside, of facing uncomfortable truths.

And now, you probably hate me for saying that. That’s okay.

But what if your results had been different? What if your answers pointed toward interdependence, where you and your partner support each other without losing your individual identities? Or what if they revealed isodependence, the quiet loneliness that can creep in even when you're physically together? The Monogamy Spectrum isn’t about right or wrong—it’s about understanding where you stand and whether it truly fulfills you.

So, are you ready to take a deeper look?