Based on your answers, you may be experiencing isodependency within your partnership. And here’s the tricky part—isodependency doesn’t necessarily mean being alone. You can share a home, a life, even a bed with someone and still feel emotionally distant. It’s the ache of feeling unseen, the quiet space that grows between two people who once felt close.

So, what now? It might be time to take a step back and honestly assess whether both you and your partner feel truly fulfilled together. Does your connection still nourish you, or does it leave you longing for something more?

One way to start this conversation is by asking your partner to take this quiz as well—ideally on their own—so they can share their final score without outside influence. If loneliness is present, this request shouldn’t feel like a struggle. In fact, it might be the perfect opportunity to gain clarity.

Of course, isodependency isn’t the only possibility. Depending on how the questions were answered the score might have revealed a leaning toward codependency, where one partner’s needs or emotions dominate the dynamic, leaving little room for autonomy. Depending on how the questions were answered the score might have revealed a leaning toward interdependency, a healthy balance of connection and independence, where both partners support each other without losing themselves.

No matter where you land on the horseshoe of relationship health, awareness is the first step. The Monogamy Spectrum isn’t about one-size-fits-all answers—it’s about understanding where you and your partner thrive, where you struggle, and what kind of connection truly fulfills you.

Curious about what your results really mean?